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I am a cat person not a dog person (sorry!). I enjoy video games, ultimate frisbee, and origami. I have been a firefighter, EMT, archaeologist, and much more in addition to my work challenging gender-based violence.

A proud born-and-raised New Yorker currently living in Bloomington, Indiana with my incredible partner Bix Gabriel. My mom is an incredible painter and muralist. My dad a brilliant musician and recording engineer.

My work is helping communities engage men and boys in culture change and violence prevention, focusing on different forms of gender-based violence (domestic/dating violence, sexual assault, street harassment and sexual harassment, stalking, and more.) I currently am working with numerous colleges and universities, various communities, the NYC Department of Parks and Recreation, as well as with the incredible team behind the new documentary film, Roll Red Roll.

Before that I was Senior Program Manager for Community Mobilization & Leadership Development with Breakthrough, a global human rights organization that works to end violence against women and girls. I was also Outreach and Training Manager for the Disaster Distress Helpline – the first national hotline dedicated to year-round disaster crisis counseling in the US.

I've been working to end gender-based violence for over 20 years, first as a student activist and organizer. From 2009 - 2012, I was the coordinator of training & technical assistance for the national organization, Men Can Stop Rape. There I created and facilitated hundreds of trainings to diverse communities, organizations, government agencies, schools, law enforcement, the military and more on engaging men and boys in the primary prevention of violence against women. 

Before that, I was the trainer for the Anti-Stalking Program at Safe Horizon, where I developed curricula and conducted trainings on stalking, including a focus on stalking as it affects high school and college-aged youth, something often overlooked. During this time, I also facilitated court-mandated groups for teens who had committed domestic violence in New York City with STEPS to End Family Violence.

As an undergraduate and graduate student I ran student men’s groups dedicated to ending violence against women on campus. As a graduate student at Columbia University, I studied gender-based violence in Japan. I lived in Japan for over four years, and am fluent in Japanese. From 2003 – 2006, I was peer leadership coordinator at Day One, where I recruited and trained hundreds of students on college campuses throughout NYC to become the next generation of leaders in the movement to end domestic violence.




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Some more stuff I've done


"Why being a 'good guy' is not enough", YES Magazine 

RightRides Defender of the Year Award

Creator, co-producer of "Shit Men Say  to Men who Say Shit to Women on the Street" anti-street harassment video which won the CDC "Safer Lens" Challenge Award in August 2012 (with Oraia Reid, Fivel Rothberg, and Bix Gabriel)